Dr. Karen's Sex Talks - Dr. Karen's Sex Talks

"There is simply no way of containing sexual energy;

it is the life force itself. "

Diana Richardson, author of "Tantric Orgasm for Women"

I was taught that sex wasn't something for "good" girls.

I was raised Catholic, indoctrinated into beliefs that impacted my holistic health and wellness. I was taught that sex was the act of a man and woman together (I don’t believe they ever used the 'S' word) which is only for the purpose of having children. As I tried to consider pleasure, desire, wanting connection and touch, feeling alive in my body, understanding life force energy – I had no clue. But in my 50s and 60s, that awareness began to change.

Dr. Karen's Sex Talks is a community of women gathering monthly to stir the energies that have been hidden behind closed doors, behind closed minds, and behind closed bodies. Together, we'll explore all aspects of sexuality, our life force energy, and how we have used it or been used by others. Through our casual, private conversations, we'll reframe the narrative around sex, relationships, and intimacy.

I have lived half of my life with very little awareness of my life force energy, my sexual energy, I saw it as something to use to get what I wanted. Sometimes my body felt almost driven to have sex with someone, anyone. I put myself in dangerous situations where I didn’t have a choice, resulting in trauma, assault, abuse, and rape. I couldn’t forge healthy, intimate relationships. I didn’t have any support to change this narrative. I craved freedom in safety, so I withdrew shifting from feeling to thinking, trying to validate this idea of being "a good" person by focusing on my intellectual development. Yet I always sensed that I was missing something as depression, self-deprecation, and unhealthy coping mechanisms took over. I was cut off from life, within and outside of myself.

Although I was able to widen my awareness when I started chiropractic school in my 30s, it wasn’t until my 50’s that I began to remember sexual traumas from 3 years of age, and then memories from my mother, my father, and ancestors coming to me in my 60’s. I quit smoking. My dad died. I got married. Life was coming at me full force. I had tried quitting before but had suicidal thoughts. When I lapsed back to smoking, the memories kept surfacing. My coping mechanisms were no longer working.

My body gave me exactly what I needed to claim my connection to my sacred self.

In October of 2017, the same weekend as #metoo exploded into the media, my appendix ruptured, and my beautiful body knew exactly what to do to release the trapped energies, the emotions that I had stuffed most of my life, to help heal and awaken to this amazing life force energy.

In this catharsis, I had a sudden, expansive awareness of my journey here on this earth, and a knowing that I chose all the experiences so that I could be a part of the change. From my hospital bed, I could see the spirits and angels of support beckoning me to my life’s calling to help bring this healing awareness to others:

The body is sacred.
Desires and wants are valuable and also sacred.
Life can be enjoyable in all its aspects.

I also learned that I have a choice to pursue this joy and to bring pleasure to this sacred body. With that choice comes the responsibility to speak up for my desires and discover what brings me joy. I no longer wanted to box myself into numbness and just accepting what's there, staying with conditioned behaviors and beliefs. Through my journey of exploration and healing, I've discovered there's so much more beyond what I've been taught in childhood and what I've experienced as an adult.

I created this community and conversational space
to bring this awareness to you.

Hi, I'm Dr. Karen Feeley,

a sacred sexual educator and practitioner. I started my career as a chiropractic practitioner, seeking to help others find their optimal wellness. Through my journey, I started to gravitate toward widening the scope of what I included in wellness. I'm a Terrain of Essence facilitator, graduate of Wheel of Consent teaching for groups and individuals. I'm consistently pursuing experiences and educational opportunities to learn more about how to bring holistic wellness and joy into life. More than anything, I want to help women step into the awareness of their sacred bodies and claim the wisdom and power within themselves. Together, we can change the narrative around our attachments to sex, intimacy, and relationships.

This space is designed with you in mind.

I want you to feel supported and to be able to continue the conversation between our monthly calls. When you join the free community, you'll have access to an open Q&A discussion thread where you can ask questions, share experiences, and provide support to your fellow sisters.

Once you sign up, you'll enter the program portal and have instant access to these community support benefits and access to the zoom links. Zoom link is sent each month by email.